Obsession v/s Love

I don't even know why I'm writing this. But my thoughts need to go somewhere.

I have been thinking about obsession. I am not here to defend the guy for not telling the girl that he loved her when she asked him about it. Because that is obviously the right thing to do. But I don't think the wish the guy made in itself is a bad wish.

Let's start with what love is. In my opinion, the love is everything positive there is. Everything good there is. Love is everything that not only makes you happy, but also everything that makes your partner happy. And that is my opinion on what love is. Love has boundaries, love has trust. Love has respect for each other's individuality. I don't know how far it is from the truth of what exactly love actually is. And yes, I know that something cannot entirely be positive. Like something cannot entirely be negative. So I'm surely wrong about love here, but that's what I expect love to be. Entirely positive.

So, if you take that to an extreme, (madly in love) then, isn't it supposed to be the most heavenly feeling? The most trusted person is the person you love. They respect your boundaries and you do the same, they respect your individuality and you do too, they make you happy and you make them happy and everything positive there is and there can be. Right???

Yes, the title of the movie correctly portrays the premise and the story of the movie. But wishing for your crush to fall in love with you, in my opinion, is not the worst wish somebody would make. If I had to make a wish and I knew that I loved this girl, I too would wish for the girl to love me too. Isn't that obvious? Once you know how the story goes, it feels like a wrong decision to wish for the girl to love you back because you know the consequences. But what about what you think love is? Because if you think of love as an entirely positive thing, then why wouldn't you wish for it?

It feels like I'm going around in circles. Let me get to the bottom of it.

I went ahead and did some research on how science defines love. And by research I mean I watched someone else's research on youtube.

It took me a whole day to complete watching the video, because I watched the world cup match and slept and woke up and ate and resumed watiching the video. And I think I'm confident enough to explain what love is according to science to you.

So, If I had to explain love referencing modern science. Biologically love is a feeling that makes a person do illogical and irrational and stupid things due to it being a combination of multiple factors like lust, romantic attraction and attachment. Lust makes you want to have sex directly relating to making offsprings. Attachment help you stay with your partner lifelong, likely for the protection of the said offspring. And, Romantic Attraction which makes you feel like the person you love is a part of your own life and also plays a role in turning off the very special part of your brain that is used for critical thinking and judgement that results in obsession and bad judgement keeping you from second guessing your partner.

Well that's something new I learned today.

I assume that you didn't expect a complete 360 of my opinion, but it's a new day toady. And, now that I know that love includes obsession and not just in a cute way but in an illogical and bad judgement kind of way, I wouldn't wish for her to madly fall in love with me.

I came here to say that Love was portrayed in a negative manner in that movie, but well I think I was wrong. I guess not even love is sunshines and rainbows all the way.

Hmmmm, So if being in love means not judging or not second guessing your partner's decisions, then falling out of love means that you are critically thinking, logically judging and second guessing them and their decisions. This new information is somehow not surprising yet very devastating to know. I wanted love to be all the positive there is.

If you read this till the end, thankyou but sorry. Have a nice day! <3

I started writing this yesterday at 2026-07-07T21:13:57+05:45 and it's currently 2026-07-08T11:38:27+05:45 when I finished writing it.